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My Story – by Adrian

I am your pain

I come into every life and in many different ways:
Small hurts, little worries, frustrations and disappointments, shame and regret;
Great grief, tortured thoughts, despair, bodily trauma, niggling doubts and grave fears;
I come as loss and aloneness, bleakness, confusion, weariness and depletion;
Sometimes vague, other times defined; passing quickly or persistently present. 

I am your pain.
I am your pain poem

Please do not neglect or reject me 
Please do not curse or condemn me
Please don't run, please don't hide
Please don't deny or pretend
I need your care, I need you to be there.

I am your pain.

Open your ears, open your eyes
Open the door, open your heart.

I am your pain.

Please do not dramatise me
Please don't use me to define yourself
Don't hide behind me
Don't become noble because of me
Or use me to hurt or manipulate others.

I am your pain.

Hold me until I no longer need holding
Let me come, let me go
Let me be a lesson in love.


By Adrian

 


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BLUE KNOT HELPLINE 12 TIPS

To Keep You And Others Safe At Your Blue Knot Day Event

Preparations are well underway for Blue Knot Foundation’s national awareness and fundraising event Blue Knot Day, which will be held on Monday 16 October and throughout the week of 16-22 October, 2017. Our Blue Knot Foundation community across the nation will unite in support of Australia’s five million adults who experienced abuse and trauma in their childhoods.  Thank you to all of our many supporters and helpers. 

We are aware, however, that speaking with people who may be working through or affected by their own trauma issues requires a delicate touch in which respect and safe boundaries are promoted and observed. 

This is particularly pertinent for event organisers who might be survivors themselves and may be “triggered” by talking about the impacts of child abuse, or feel emotional when stories are told. 

In recognition of the challenges faced by promoters and organisers, we are pleased to publish the following “12 Tips to keeping yourself and others safe and grounded while holding a Blue Knot Day Event”. 

These tips have been gleaned from interviews with Blue Knot Foundation’s experienced facilitators who provide educational workshops to survivors and the Helpline Counsellors who provide counselling support to our Blue Knot community.

  1. Follow an “avoid surprises” policy. Make sure the event’s details and schedule are clearly outlined before it gets underway. 
  2. Devise a way for participants to opt out of proceedings if they feel uncomfortable or are triggered.
  3. Communicate to everyone at your event that it is okay to take time out if they need to - to compose themselves, breathe or leave the event at any time.
  4. If you are speaking, attend to your own physical state by relaxing any tension in your jaw, shoulders and hands. Keep yourself grounded and extend your breath down into your abdomen. Speak slowly and quietly. 
  5. Let people know they are among supporters and treat everyone with respect. 
  6. Flag the likelihood that people might become emotional during the event and help ‘normalise’ that this is not unexpected. The topic of child abuse and other traumas can bring up a mixture of feelings and it is important to acknowledge this. 
  7. It isn’t necessary to share your own personal story of abuse, so don’t feel pressured to do so. If you want to disclose elements of your story perhaps rather focus on how your trauma affected you, what helped you and your process of recovery, if it is relevant. 
  8. It is important to avoid describing graphic details or acts of violence and abuse. This can be triggering to other event-goers. 
  9. Promote confidentiality. If people share their stories let them know it is best not to identify anyone else who is part of that story (involved or not in the event). If you feel that someone might be moving into unsafe territory in terms of what they are sharing, talk to them gently about the need to keep other people safe and comfortable. It is possible this person might feel triggered themselves, and be unaware of the impact they are having on others, so speak to them in a supportive way, without making them feel ashamed.
  10. Remain positive. Remember that the process of bringing people together to talk about the topic of child abuse and trauma can be very empowering as well as healing and supportive. Validate what people tell you, be compassionate and empathic and remain a non-judgemental witness. 
  11. Broadcast a message of recovery. While it is important to mourn the pain and loss felt by those affected by childhood abuse and trauma, aim to finish on a positive note by talking about standing united around one another and the issue of childhood trauma. 
  12. If a person becomes overwhelmed and is not able to ground themselves or feels unsettled, suggest they call the Blue Knot Helpline to speak to a counsellor. The number is 1300 657 380 and the line is open 7-days between 9am and 5pm AEST. Write this number down so you can hand it out if needed. 

Recovery from childhood trauma is possible and  it is very empowering to hold onto hope together

We wish you all the best for your Blue Knot Day event and efforts. Thank you for your support and commitment to raising awareness for our community of survivors.


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Blue Knot Helpline

The Blue Knot Helpline is staffed with experienced trauma-informed counsellors who provide:

  • Professional short-term telephone counselling support
  • Information
  • Referrals for ongoing support
  • Support and guidance for engaging with the Royal Commission

If you are need of information or counselling support during this time, call the Blue Knot Helpline on 1300 657 380 between 9am to 5pm ADST 7 days or email helpline@blueknot.org.au

If the counsellors are unable to take your call, please leave a message including a telephone number with an area code, and a counsellor will call you back within 48hrs.

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SELF CARE RESOURCES

In this section, we will review self care/help resources our Blue Knot Helpline counselling team collects to share with people who call the Helpline. We are delighted to share these ideas with our Breaking Free readers. What is helpful for one person may not be right for someone else so please experiment, explore and find what suits you.

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Blue Knot Foundation makes every effort to provide readers of its website and newsletters with information which is accurate and helpful. It is not however a substitute for counselling or professional advice. While all attempts have been made to verify all information provided, Blue Knot Foundation cannot guarantee and does not assume any responsibility for currency, errors, omissions or contrary interpretation of the information provided.


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Blue Knot Foundation makes every effort to provide readers of its website and newsletters with information which is accurate and helpful. It is not however a substitute for counselling or professional advice. While all attempts have been made to verify all information provided, Blue Knot Foundation cannot guarantee and does not assume any responsibility for currency, errors, omissions or contrary interpretation of the information provided.


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Blue Knot Foundation makes every effort to provide readers of its website and newsletters with information which is accurate and helpful. It is not however a substitute for counselling or professional advice. While all attempts have been made to verify all information provided, Blue Knot Foundation cannot guarantee and does not assume any responsibility for currency, errors, omissions or contrary interpretation of the information provided.


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Blue Knot Foundation makes every effort to provide readers of its website and newsletters with information which is accurate and helpful. It is not however a substitute for counselling or professional advice. While all attempts have been made to verify all information provided, Blue Knot Foundation cannot guarantee and does not assume any responsibility for currency, errors, omissions or contrary interpretation of the information provided.


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Disclaimer - Blue Knot Foundation makes every effort to provide readers of its website and newsletters with information which is accurate and helpful. It is not however a substitute for counselling or professional advice. While all attempts have been made to verify all information provided, Blue Knot Foundation cannot guarantee and does not assume any responsibility for currency, errors, omissions or contrary interpretation of the information provided.