“A warrior's ultimate ideal is to lay down his sword.” (Movie: Hero, 2002)
Today we gather to publicly to acknowledge Kim's Loyal Soldier, and to support her in her transition into a new role.
To the Loyal Soldier, the Warrior Woman:
“We understand your goal has always been to fight the good fight and restore Kim to her best. To destroy the lies around all that has harmed her. This heroic quest has always been fought with the aim of helping her to regain her true and rightful power over the darkest of forces. It has been fought with fury for justice, freedom and victory... and with a mission to do whatever it takes to find peace.
“Today, we honour your unwavering loyalty in fighting for her: your fierceness and determination, your extraordinary persistence and endurance, your protection and bravery. You gave her security and backed her up when no one else did. You cautioned her to danger and helped her to define boundaries within which she established safety and identity. You worked tirelessly in your attempt to free her from the hell of powerlessness and deliver her back to herself.”
To Supportive Parts:
“We acknowledge all other parts in Kim that have also held unwavering allegiance to supporting her cause, and the incredible skills they have consequently gained along the way. We acknowledge your intense ferocity; your 'Raaaaa!' and the ferocity of those who have 'Raaaaed' before you and with you.”
Acknowledging the Challenges:
“Letting go may feel like a severe death and exile. We sensitively mourn with you and comfort you in any sadness and fear you may feel in this transition. Respectfully, we acknowledge the choice that you have now made to enable Kim to journey forward into a new frontier. While you may not understand the new terrain ahead, you know and accept that you can honourably and safely step back and rest now, as is necessary for her to journey more towards authentic inner authority.”
Jesus said, “ Put your sword back in its place”. (Matthew 26: 52)
The handing over of the sword. (a moment of silence)
We now officially declare this virtuous battle over and that you, noblest of warriors, be truly honoured and free.
I have spent decades fighting the good fight against my trauma and how it impacted me, and it seemed that I used a kind of ferocious, unrelenting warrior part of me that was intensely engaged in doing whatever it takes to heal. I was in effect raised in an intense 'emotional war zone', only to ironically find myself engaging in a different war as my adult warrior woman was fighting so hard to right the wrongs and have ultimate victory. Of course this has been incredibly exhausting.
I have come to realize over the past few months that the warrior woman is ready to lay down her sword. It's like I thought that fighting was the only way to regain my power and self. But now I see this as a stage I passed through; an understandable and extremely useful part of my journey – and that now I am ready to continue the journey in a different way. I have come to realize that I no longer need her to fight for me. I feel I'm ready to transition and move away from an external fight against evil, towards some more internal reconciliation.
This ceremony was created as a ritual to acknowledge my very powerful shift.