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Adult victims/survivors of institutional and/or extra-familial child sexual abuse and their parents/carers are invited to participate in an important survey about their views and experiences of support services. This survey is a critical part of research that is being conducted by the Australian Institute of Family Studies to investigate how victims/survivors of child sexual abuse and their families access and navigate pathways to support services. This research has been commissioned and funded by Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse. The survey is open to participants from 18 February - 6 May 2016.

For more information and for the link to the survey, please see https://aifs.gov.au/victims-survivors-and-parents-carers-participation-online-survey

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Helen Terren
# Helen Terren
Sunday, 28 February 2016 10:52 AM
I was very interested to investigate the content of your survey, so I went through and gave answers until the end but did not submit. I was ineligible to do so as, like a vast number of abuse victims, I was abused within the family.
Once again, survivors of familial abuse have been excluded. My recommendation is that, if you are making an invitation to "all survivors" (your own words) to have their voice heard, then it should actually be open to all survivors, Otherwise, you need to ensure that your invitation is accurate, and a damn good reason should be given as to why survivors of familial abuse are not able to participate. ASCA does great work with great sensitivity for the most part. I cannot believe that you would make such a glaring error - this is going to dishearten a lot of people, and will alienate some completely. WTF?
Blue Knot Foundation
# Blue Knot Foundation
Monday, 29 February 2016 11:42 AM
Dear Helen,
We're very sorry to hear of the distress the survey has caused. We acknowledge and agree that a vast number of abuse cases happen within the family. Unfortunately this particular AIFS study is calling for "All adult victims/survivors of institutional and/or extra-familial child sexual abuse and their parents/carers". We will revise the published blurb to remove the word "all" as it is misleading and will highlight the word "extra-familial". Thank you for bringing this to our attention, again, sincere apologies for the misunderstanding. Our telephone support service on 1300 657 380 is available 9am-5pm ADST 7 days a week should you wish to speak to one of our experienced counsellors.
Regards,
The ASCA Team
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Monday, 29 February 2016 4:03 PM
Well my name is Emily. when i was in Graduation 2 years before.i also had to face lot of abused moments by some other students . anyway most of us have to face the same at least once in our life. I am interested in answering the survey.let me try it now.
Cathy
# Cathy
Monday, 29 February 2016 6:43 PM
Helen Terren, I couldn't agree more with your post, and thank-you ASCA for amending the title. I was actually going to post that I had great issue with the use of the word "all" in front of survivors, but Helen has put it perfectly.
Sad to say, when I saw the word "all", my heart did a little jump of joy, until it came crashing down when I realised that "all" didn't mean ALL.
Personally, I believe that non-institutional abuse has been put into the too-hard basket - by the public and victim's groups (see my previous post under the blog post "The Lasting Impact of childhood family violence".
How do we protect this group of potential victims in the future??
Helen Terren
# Helen Terren
Thursday, 3 March 2016 2:22 PM
Many thanks to ASCA for immediately acknowledging and correcting your mistake. (If only Cardinal Pell could have done the same). You provide an invaluable service which is greatly appreciated by many, myself included.
I hope this incident serves to illustrate the many ways in which victims/survivors of familial abuse are neglected within this whole debate. We have had, and will never have, a Royal Commission through which to seek the healing power of justice, the support of others and the acknowledgement of the community. There are virtually no support groups available to us. (Why is this, exactly, when perhaps the vast majority of child abuse occurs within the family?). In many cases these people deal with lifelong denial and ostracism from within their own families.
I would call on the research community to take this into account when devising further studies.
Please feel free to pass this comment on to the AIFS.

Cathy
# Cathy
Thursday, 3 March 2016 2:41 PM
I have posted this elsewhere, but seems appropriate for this discussion:

AN ODE TO THE UNACKNOWLEDGED MAJORITY:

WITH THE CURRENT FOCUS QUITE APPROPRIATELY
ON THE ISSUE OF INSTITUTIONAL ABUSE
PLEASE SPARE A THOUGHT FOR THOSE EXCLUDED
THE UNACKNOWLEDGED MAJORITY OF THE SEXUALLY ABUSED

THE UNACKNOWLEDGED MAJORITY OF THE SEXUALLY ABUSED
ARE THOSE FOR WHOM THE ABUSE THAT OCCURRED
WAS NOT INSTITUTIONAL BUT INTRAFAMILIAL
THEIR ORDEALS TOOK PLACE IN FAMILY HOMES

SO THEY DON’T BELONG TO ANY KIND OF GROUP
THIS UNACKNOWLEDGED MAJORITY
LEFT TO BEAR THEIR BURDEN ALONE
SCATTERED THROUGHOUT THE COMMUNITY

DISCLOSURE IS A SOLO PROCESS
PITTING VICTIMS AGAINST FAMILY MEMBERS
WITH OFTEN NO WAY TO POSITIVELY PROVE
THAT ANYTHING EVER HAPPENED

SO THE VEIL OF SECRECY REMAINS FIRMLY IN PLACE
AND UNSPEAKABLE DEEDS REMAIN UNCORROBOATED
PERPETRATORS REMAIN UNPUNISHED
AND THEIR VICTIMS ALONE IN THEIR STRUGGLE

WITH NO CHANCE OF APOLOGIES OR RETRIBUTION
NO PROMISE OF RECOGNITION FOR THEIR SUFFERING
NOTHING IN PLACE FOR FUTURE PREVENTION
NO PATHWAYS FOR COMPENSATION

BUT IF THEY ARE THE MAJORITY THEN IT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE
MAKING ME FEEL WE ARE MISSING THE WHOLE POINT
BECAUSE SURELY WE SHOULD BE EMPOWERING ALL CHILDREN
AND TEACHING ALL OF US TO REACH OUT TO A CHILD IN DISTRESS

SO THIS IS MY ODE TO THE UNACKNOWLEDGED MAJORITY
THOSE WHOSE ABUSE OCCURRED WITHIN THE FAMILY
NO MATTER HOW ALONE YOU MIGHT FEEL
THERE ARE MANY OF YOU, ALBEIT SPREAD WIDELY

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